You might have mistaken me for an average working mom with a husband and two kids had we passed each other at the grocery store or in the after school pick up line. I was raised to be a good girl and had a lot invested in that image, although my private life was unconventional: I slept with more men while married than I had before. Had a long-time female lover. And convened a pleasure coven. 

The choice to be in a polyamorous marriage unlocked a secret sex-filled world of tantra lessons, foursomes, ecstatic dance, and eco-sexual festivals. My good girl persona did not survive. A pleasure queen emerged and that awakening led to the ultimate sacrifice—the unraveling of my twenty-year marriage. 

My new partner and I are blessed to live in the Coastal Mountains outside of Portland, Oregon, near a creek where salmon spawn every fall.